A couple of days ago I saw an article on the Internet “There’s Not a Single Country that has Succeeded in Reducing Obesity in the Past 33 Years” (http://www.globalpost.com/dispatch/news/regions/americas/united-states/140530/global-obesity-study-shows-world-has-got-fatter-since-1980). My first reaction was that I understood why. I got it.
Solving obesity isn’t about embracing a “diet”. It isn’t about joining Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig or buying NutriSystem. It isn’t about joining a gym, hiring a private trainer. It isn’t even about seeing a nutritionist. Some of the above do work and do help people lose weight. I’m not criticizing any of it. I am speaking my truth.
For any “diet” to work, for one to lose weight and keep it off, the willingness, the ability the desire to fully delve into the reasons why one overeats—that’s the key!
Years ago I went to Weight Watchers meetings. I even tried Overeaters Anonymous until my anonymity got broken twice, but that’s another story. My father joined Jenny Craig once and lost a fair amount of weight. And gained it back.
I’ve had the success I’ve had because I’ve fought for it. I’ve looked, with fearless surrender, into the depths of my soul and I’ve seen why I overeat. I’ve looked at and continue to look at the emotions and behaviors that cause me to want to soothe myself with double-stuff oreos and twice-cooked French fries.
It’s not easy. It’s never really easy to see that I have to make myself matter. That I have to treat myself the way I want to be treated. That if I want to be loved, to feel loved I have to find a way to feel that way myself.
But the struggle to find that source of inner strength is so worth it because it means not being a victim. It means not waiting for someone else to solve what they can’t solve. It means I am my own knight in shining armor on a white horse.
See? Solving the epidemic of obesity isn’t about the food people eat. It’s about emotions, feelings, events in their lives that have caused them to feel unworthy of self-love. It’s about really allowing ourselves to feel. Anger, rage, sadness, despair, happiness, joy–to feel!!!! It’s OKAY TO FEEL!!!! Maybe when people address feelings and acknowledge that it’s okay to feel, and address the root cause of why we don’t spend more time treating ourselves and others with kindness, maybe then we’ll see a drop in obesity.
In the meantime, I’m going to my yoga class. Yoga=self-love and healing. It’s giving to myself and others. Hiking, meditating, taking time to be—that’s all self-love too. Find what works for you and just do it.